playing games with my dadi

I love the memory of playing games with my dad, from when I was little to even after I grew up. My dad was always such a fun-loving person and knew how to play all sorts of games. I remember him teaching me how to play chinese chess when I was little, not only the traditional way of playing, but also blind chinese chess.

He would always play card games with me too -- somehow he would find the time to play silly games like "heart attack" and "go fish" with me, when I was only a little girl. The image of him playing card games with me and laughing always makes me feel happy.

And I remember one trip to Atlantic City where we played roulette together and we were having so much fun spreading out our chips all over the table, picking random numbers. I remember dadi being really lucky and hitting the numbers somehow and us all laughing at it. It still makes me smile.

In recent memory, I remember him teaching me and my husband how to play the chinese new years dice-in-a-bowl games that he always played growing up in his family. It was such a silly game, but somehow we all had a lot of fun.

And then of course, all of us - me, momi and dadi - all playing video games (all the way from Nintendo, Dreamcast, to GameCube) together. Sometimes I think he would just let me and momi win so we wouldn't get upset.

I think he must be up there playing games with his old/new friends in heaven too, making it a fun place where-ever he goes.

Some photos...

Here are 3 photos from the flower's outside the house, which bloom every autumn/winter on their own. Seems appropriate since that is when dadi's birthday is...





Here is another photo of the smiley face spider web that was on the ceiling for a long time... smiling down everyday.

Touching essay wrote for my dad's friend

One of my dad's old friends, Dr. Chao, from way back recently passed away. His wife wrote a very touching essay about him and life in general that I thought would be good for my dad's blog too. I hope my dad and his old friend are reuniting in heaven.

風趣趙茶房令人懷念！

結婚15年，趙寧遺孀劉茵茵說：「最後的這半年，我們朝夕相處，是最珍貴的時光，我很感謝老天給我們這段時間，但還是遺憾緣分太短。」

守候病榻 苦中作樂

趙寧是優秀學者、好爸爸，也是很多人的好朋友，他更是一個好兒子，父親過世29年，他每天早上都在書房跪拜父親，每天下班也一定到母親家，陪母親聊天散步。茵茵說，結婚以來，他忙於事業，她專心照顧家庭，他生病，她日夜守著他，還把兩人每天的對話寫在日記裡，兩人談往事，聊趣事，還會唱唱歌，真的是苦中作樂。

家有賢妻 滿足感謝

３個孩子，最小的才９歲，茵茵說，趙寧沒有不放心孩子，因為他覺得她把孩子教得很好，不過最後還是叮嚀她要好好撫養孩子長大，他也滿足的說過：「謝謝妳給了我一個家和孩子，要不然這些年我會過得很空虛」，最後他要施打很重劑量的止痛針，他說：「其實妳的握手擁抱比打止痛針還有效。」這些話從內向的趙寧口中說出，總讓她泣不成聲。

萬般不捨 臨別依依

趙寧體重從94公斤降到59公斤，３個星期前，他對她說：「我覺得我要打包行李上飛機了，妳這幾天不要離開，不然我走的時候妳不在，我會很難過。」

事實上，趙寧病後，茵茵放下孩子專心照顧他，每個星期回家看孩子時，趙寧都不願她離開，眼神充滿不捨與不安，有一天他感慨的說：「我還想再活幾年。」她問：「為甚麼？」他輕輕的說：「陪妳。」

趙寧比茵茵大25歲，外界多認為他很嬌寵她，沒想到相反，「他像個大小孩，不高興的時候會鬧脾氣，我就想和小孩子計較甚麼，有時候他也會道歉。」生病時他常客氣的說：「謝謝妳對我這麼好。」昨天是他過世的第３天，她多次搖頭說：「真是緣分太短了。」


生活，是用來經營的，而不是用來計較的。

感情，是用來維繫的，而不是用來考驗的。

愛人，是用來疼愛的，而不是用來傷害的。

金錢，是用來享受的，而不是用來衡量的。

謊言，是用來擊破的，而不是用來粉飾的。

信任，是用來沉澱的，而不是用來挑戰的。